Valentines Gifts and Random Acts of Affection

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How many of us have felt the emptiness of a Valentine's Day where the expected was done, the gestures well meaning, but the day somehow still seemed to ring hollow? Deep inside most of us there is a bit of a rejection in the idea that there is only this one day to offer gestures of love on demand, and we resist the whole idea by saying we're somehow being bought, forced into love by Hallmark.


But might I say that this is actually a day that could be celebrated as a high holy day, an activating reminder of our desire for intimacy and the generosity of heart that is our deepest hunger every day?

I'd like to encourage lovers to be ignited by the Valentine's frenzy of gifting, and the excited anticipatory hunger for the passions to be exchanged! We can all too easily contract ourselves to fit the contours of daily survival and close out the rush and fulfillment of our warm and sensuous heart. How would your life change if you gave your gifts of affection randomly, freely and often; without warning and without expectation, possibly every day?


Keep in mind that the richest gifts may be those you give when you least feel like extending yourself. In these moments you may sense that you have more to offer but you stop because the way forward is blocked by the unknown, or mired in festering wounds of closure.


If you find yourself on the precipice, wondering if you're about to fail to give your lover what they want, relax your mind, breathe into your heart, and offer any kind and generous thought. Gift your trust, and have faith in love, for in these moments we actually transform our contracted relationships with our courage, our generosity and desire.


The question to ask yourself is, what do you desire to experience in your beloved's presence? This could be the very gift you offer. Consider the possibilities, activate the feeling, and find that impish grin. There is unlimited love mischief possible!

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